Fear of Commitment Test

These 10 questions are waiting for you

For each one you answer “Never”, “Sometimes” or “Often”. There is no right or wrong – just your honest impression.

1. Do you lose interest as soon as someone shows they’re genuinely interested in you?
2. After lovely, close moments, do you suddenly need a lot of distance?
3. Do you mainly notice the other person’s faults once things get closer?
4. Do you feel trapped when shared plans start to become concrete?
5. Do you keep other options open, even when things are going well with someone?
6. Do you end things – dating or relationships – before they get really serious?
7. Do you dodge the subject when the other person wants to talk about feelings or the relationship?
8. After a break-up, is relief the main thing you feel?
9. Are you drawn to people who aren’t really available?
10. Are you afraid of losing your freedom and independence in a relationship?

What your result looks like

Your answers add up to one of three levels:

Little fear of commitment

Based on your answers, you can usually let closeness and commitment in quite well. Needing some space is completely normal – it’s part of a healthy relationship.

Some escape patterns

Sometimes you pull back when things get more serious – perhaps without even noticing. Patterns like this are common and can change. Once you recognise them, you can make a conscious choice instead of running on autopilot.

Clear fear of commitment

What you describe shows a clear pattern: as soon as things get serious, something pulls you away. That’s not a character flaw – it’s often an old protective mechanism. You can learn to experience closeness as safer, step by step – on your own or with support.