Stay or go?

10 questions about your relationship to help you see more clearly – anonymous, and the decision stays yours.

100% anonymous

These 10 questions are waiting for you

For each one you answer “Not true”, “Partly” or “True”. There is no right or wrong – just your honest impression.

Do you feel lonelier in the relationship than you would on your own?
When you imagine life without your partner, is relief the main thing you feel?
Do you hardly want any physical or emotional closeness with your partner any more?
Do your conflicts go round in circles without ever really being resolved?
Is respect missing in the way you treat each other?
Have your attempts to change things already failed several times?
Do you no longer have the energy or wish to invest in the relationship?
Do your values or life goals differ on important questions?
Do you feel you can't be yourself in the relationship?
Are you staying mainly out of fear, habit or a sense of obligation?

Your answers add up to one of three levels:

Worth staying for: Based on your answers, your relationship still holds a lot that is worth nurturing. Doubts are sometimes part of it – take them seriously, but don't let them drive you. What you make of this is your decision.
Time for an honest talk: Some things in your relationship clearly weigh on you, while others may still hold you together. Now is a good moment to openly name what you're missing – with your partner, or first with yourself. Whether you stay or go is yours alone to decide.
Much points to leaving: Your answers show many signs that the relationship takes more from you than it gives. That doesn't mean you have to act right away – but you're allowed to consider leaving. The decision belongs to you, and you don't have to prepare for it alone.