Heartbreak Check

These 10 questions are waiting for you

For each one you answer “Never”, “Sometimes” or “Often”. There is no right or wrong – just your honest impression.

1. Do you think about your ex many times a day?
2. Do you look at their profiles or new posts on social media?
3. Do you reread old messages or look at old photos of the two of you?
4. Do you hope that the two of you will get back together?
5. Is your sleep or your appetite suffering because of the break-up?
6. Do you find yourself crying over the break-up?
7. Do you find it hard to concentrate at work, at university or at school?
8. Do you withdraw from friends or family?
9. Do you blame yourself for the relationship ending?
10. Do you feel that your life has lost its meaning?

What your result looks like

Your answers add up to one of three levels:

You’re on a good path

Based on your answers, the break-up is still on your mind, but it no longer shapes your everyday life. Keep giving yourself time – the odd hard day is part of healing too.

The pain is still there

The break-up still takes up a lot of space in your thoughts and your everyday life. That’s normal and not a sign of weakness – be patient with yourself and lean on people who are good for you.

You’re carrying a lot

Heartbreak is weighing on you in many areas right now – in your mind, your body and your daily life. You don’t have to carry this alone: talk to someone you trust and, if the pain doesn’t ease, to a doctor or a counsellor. If thoughts of not wanting to live come up, get help straight away – from a crisis line or the emergency number in your country.