Jealousy check

These 10 questions are waiting for you

For each one you answer “Never”, “Sometimes” or “Often”. There is no right or wrong – just your honest impression.

1. Does the person get upset when you spend time with your friends?
2. Are they jealous of people from your work or of your former partners?
3. Do they want to know exactly where you were and who you were with?
4. Do they read your messages or look at your phone without asking?
5. Do they demand your passwords or access to your accounts?
6. Do they try to decide what you wear or who you stay in touch with?
7. Do they sulk or go quiet after you have been out without them?
8. Do they accuse you of flirting or cheating without any real reason?
9. Do they compare themselves with other people in your life and feel inferior?
10. Do they constantly need reassurance that you love them and will stay?

What your result looks like

Your answers add up to one of three levels:

Little jealousy

Based on your answers, the person shows little jealousy and you can move freely. A brief pang of jealousy is human – what matters is that you can talk about it openly.

Noticeable jealousy

Jealousy plays a clear part in your relationship and limits you in places. Talk about what bothers you while it is still about feelings – and notice whether your boundaries are respected.

Strong jealousy

Many of your answers describe jealousy that is turning into control: when it decides who you see, what you wear or who reads your messages, it is no longer just about feelings but about your freedom. This is not your fault, and it is a warning sign you are allowed to take seriously. An advice service or someone you trust can help you make sense of your situation.