Back with your ex?

These 10 questions are waiting for you

For each one you answer “Not true”, “Partly” or “True”. There is no right or wrong – just your honest impression.

1. The reasons you broke up still exist today.
2. The same problems and arguments kept coming back in your relationship.
3. Since the break-up, you haven’t seen any real change in the person – only words at most.
4. In the relationship, you often felt small, unimportant or not good enough.
5. Your trust was broken more than once in the relationship.
6. To make it work again, you would have to bend yourself or give up parts of who you are.
7. Honestly, you miss the idea of the two of you more than the person themselves.
8. It’s mainly loneliness or the fear of being alone that makes you think about going back.
9. People close to you were worried about you during the relationship.
10. When there’s no contact, what you mostly feel is relief.

What your result looks like

Your answers add up to one of three levels:

A second chance is possible

Based on your answers, little fundamentally speaks against a fresh start. Still, take your time and notice whether the idea feels right in calm moments too – your decision can mature at your own pace.

Look closely

Some of your answers point to issues that could make a second chance difficult. Take an honest look at whether anything has really changed – or whether it’s mainly longing talking.

Better not go back

Much in your answers speaks against trying again: old patterns, broken trust or the feeling of having to make yourself smaller. That doesn’t mean your feelings are wrong – only that you deserve more than a repeat.