Friendship or more?

10 questions about your feelings for someone in your circle of friends – completely anonymous, no one will ever know.

100% anonymous

These 10 questions are waiting for you

For each one you answer “Never”, “Sometimes” or “Often”. There is no right or wrong – just your honest impression.

Do you think about this person even when you're not in touch at all?
Do you imagine what it would be like to be in a relationship with them?
Do you compare other people you meet with them?
Do you long for more physical closeness with them – a longer hug, a touch?
Do you feel nervous around them in a new, unfamiliar way?
Does it sting when they tell you about a date or someone they fancy?
Are they the first person you want to tell when something happens?
Do you move or change plans so you can spend more time with them?
Do little things – a late reply, a cancelled meet-up – hurt more from them than from others?
Have these feelings kept coming back for more than a few weeks?

Your answers add up to one of three levels:

Mostly friendship: Based on your answers, this looks like a close, trusting friendship – without strong romantic feelings. That's valuable and nothing that has to become ‘more’. If something changes later, you can take a fresh, calm look at it.
There's more going on: Some of your answers show that this person means more to you than an ordinary friend. It might be a crush, or the start of real feelings. Take time to listen to yourself more closely before you decide anything.
These are real feelings: What you describe sounds like clear romantic feelings – not a passing whim. That's nothing to be ashamed of. Now it's about being honest with yourself and calmly working out whether and how you want to talk about it.