Ghosting Check
10 questions on whether you’re being ghosted – and how much the silence is affecting you.
100% anonymous
These 10 questions are waiting for you
For each one you answer “Never”, “Sometimes” or “Often”. There is no right or wrong – just your honest impression.
- Have the person’s replies become rarer or noticeably shorter?
- Does the person cancel plans without suggesting a new date?
- Are your messages read but left unanswered?
- Do you notice the person being active elsewhere while not replying to you?
- Does more than a week go by without hearing anything from the person?
- Do you send several messages in a row that get no reply?
- Do you keep checking your phone to see if the person has got in touch?
- Do you blame yourself for the person pulling away?
- Is the silence affecting your sleep or bringing your mood down?
- Do you find it hard to let go and think about something else?
What your result looks like
Your answers add up to one of three levels:
- More likely a pause
- Based on your answers, this looks more like a quieter phase than ghosting. People sometimes have a lot on their plate – if something is bothering you, you can still ask honestly.
- Noticeable silence
- The person is getting in touch noticeably less, and it’s leaving its mark on you. Watch how much room you give to waiting, and ask yourself what you need right now.
- Looks like ghosting
- What you describe shows many signs of ghosting – and it’s clearly weighing on you. It says nothing about your worth. You’re allowed to stop waiting and start looking after yourself again.